I need some advice here

Hey fellow bloggers out there πŸ™‚
As I know that there are many of you who are blogging and seeing therapists I would be really grateful for some advice. On Saturday I have my first consultation with my new therapist and I don’t know whether I’m supposed to tell her about my blog straight away/at all/whatever. Last time I had a therapist I didn’t have a blog so I’ve never thought about this. I’m just really nervous and not sure what to expect – will she judge what I’m doing here? Will she want to read it?

So if it’s okay for you it would be awesome if you could tell me a little about your experiences concerning the combination therapist/blog.

Thanks and take care!

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21 thoughts on “I need some advice here

  1. Hi!

    Firstly, good luck with your first consultation.

    Secondly, I waited a while before I told my current psychologist about my blog. It was a choice I made because I’m a better writer than I am a speaker. She read it often. However, I soon realized I was censoring truths about myself because I always felt like she was reading it. Sometimes I still feel like she’s still reading it. For myself, that wasn’t healthy. The whole point of the blog is for me to have a space away from everyone. And although it gave her a different insight to how I thought about things, it felt weird, like an invasion of my private world.

    I’m a pretty private person. So for me, it just wasn’t working. I just eventually said I wasn’t blogging often anymore and she stopped reading it. Obviously I lied lol.

    It can be a good thing or a bad thing, it depends on your personality really. Sometimes her reading it might give both of you something to discuss more deeply. It often did for me. Until I got uncomfortable with the level of deepness and backed out lol. My psychologist never judged me by it, in fact she really encouraged me to continue, and still does even though I know she doesn’t read it now. You can always change your mind, too, if you want her to stop reading or if you want her to start again. You have control.

    Although, since you are just meeting her for the first time, maybe it would be good to let her get to know you a little better before she starts reading personal things. At least, that’s how I’d feel about that situation. Anyway, good luck.

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    1. Thanks you so much for your answer, this was really helpful! It’s great you’re sharing this here πŸ™‚
      I also think I’ll wait a little, she doesn’t have to know straight away. But as I know exactly what you mean by “better writer than speaker” I reckon it might be helpful if she reads it at some point…I’m curious as to how it will work…
      Huge thanks again and have a great day πŸ™‚

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  2. I started my blog during therapy and told her after a year or so. She did not want to read it and I am glad about this because I feel like this is a private space that I would like to keep for myself.

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    1. Thanks for your answer – it’s interesting how some therapists want to read their clients’ blogs and others don’t…I guess I’ll just wait a little, see how it goes and then decide…
      All the best for you!

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  3. I started my blog when I was well into therapy, so it wasn’t a question of bringing it up at the beginning. But I think if I were to start with someone new, I wouldn’t talk about it the first time. The first time, the therapist is starting to get to know you and what you’d like to work on. It seems like that should be the focus. Then, you can bring it up when it feels relevant to your work together.

    I sometimes print one of my posts to PDF and send it to E. Before I do that, I change people’s names if comments are there, and I’ve never given her the name of my blog (though she could probably easily find it). We talked about it recently, and I said I’d thought about just giving her access but decided that I’d rather just share specific posts sometimes. For me that works well. E said that she feels it’s my thing to have a separate space where I interact with other women in therapy, and I can bring something in but she wouldn’t insert herself into that space. She has noticed though that blogging is a good thing for me and tells me that based on my experience, she has suggested it to a couple of other people as well.

    I’ll be curious to hear what you decide to do.

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    1. Thanks you so much for sharing this, it’s really helpful to hear other peoples’ experiences πŸ™‚
      What you say sounds good – I won’t tell her right at the start but if I do, printing some posts sounds like a really great idea – that way I wouldn’t have her reading it all but I could show her some things I’m not good at talking about…
      Thanks for this advice, this is what I love about blogging πŸ™‚

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  4. I started blogging whilst in therapy with T. I did consider telling her about it but decided against it due to it being my space. Now that my realtionship with T is over I am very glad I did not share my blog.
    I think it’s a good idea to share certain posts but just copy and paste into an email or something. When I saw another therapist for the first time I did mention my blog, but it was a passing comment. I did not offer any information regarding my blog and actually, she didn’t ask.
    It’s all down to personal preference. I myself like having a place that is just mine. I like having another perspective on the things I choose to blog about. I’m currently on a therapy strike! But, if I were in therapy I wouldn’t want to share my blog as a whole. I’d maybe share certain posts if I felt it would be beneficial.
    There is no right or wrong here. It’s what you feel comfortable doing that matters πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you very much – this sound like some good advice. Sharing certain posts might be really helpful for me as I definitely suck at talking about some specific topics – writing is just so much easier.
      However I wouldn’t dare talking about the blog right at the start anyway. I hope I’ll just know what to do when the time comes…
      Thanks for your long answer, I’m glad you’re sharing this here and all the best with your therapy strike!

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  5. I started bloging after 2 years of therapy. My counselor knows that my blog exists but doesn’t have the url to it simply because I never gave it to her. If there is something that I want to share I will read it outloud to her in my session. Rather than her read it. I prefur it that way I’m not sure that I’d be comfortable with her reading it at anytime because I might not want to talk about some of the things that I post.

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    1. Thanks for sharing this here…I also think that what I write might sometimes be helpful in sessions because I’m easily lost for words…I guess I’ll just wait until I know her a little better and then see…
      Thanks again!

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  6. I started my blog in April, and my therapist knew about it as I told her I was going to start one. But I gave her the link to it a few months later only. Just because I didn’t think it was important at the time. It has helped… We’ve spoken about a few of my posts, so it’s made for some good discussion points in sessions. I know she doesn’t always have time to read all my posts, but she makes an effort to read as much as she can, which I really appreciate.

    It’s up to you whether you’re comfortable enough to tell her about it. So I can’t tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I’d do. Being a new therapist, I would first build up a bit of a relationship with her. There’s nothing wrong with having a blog, so there’s really no need to tell her about it straight away. It won’t hinder therapy in my opinion. It’s just another therapeutic exercise, just like some people use adult coloring books.

    Hope this helps. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks for your answer and for telling me about your experience. It’s encouraging to hear that most therapists don’t judge blogging in a negative way…hope this will be true in my case as well.
      I’ll just try to take it slow and see how it goes I guess. And I’m glad I have readers like you who give me tips without judging me πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much!

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  7. I’ve told my therapist about my blog. That I write about everything. She thought it was therapeutic. I doubt she has any time to take to read blogs because she only sets aside 55 minutes for me! But I did share with her I wrote one.

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    1. Sounds good…I also doubt that she would have the time to read everything, even if she wanted to…it’s more that I’m scared whether she’d judge what I’m doing here I guess…but we’ll see, I’ll try to take it slow…
      Thank you!

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  8. My relationship with my therapist and blog has been ever-changing. I didn’t tell her about it right away, but I did tell her pretty early on in the therapy. We now have an agreement that, while she has access to my blog, she only reads posts that I tell her to read (she doesn’t read everything, and she doesn’t go there whenever she feels like it). I trust her on this. Also, since I often blog about my therapy, we’ve determined over time that I’m welcome to blog about any issues I have with her (because my blog is my space) but she would prefer that I take up these issues with her in person or directly over email, so she doesn’t have to read about my frustrations with her in the third person. I feel like this is fair. I hope your consultation goes well… good luck! xx

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    1. That sounds like a pretty awesome agreement…from what you write here it feels like you can really trust her which is beautiful. I hope it will be similar for me, I guess I’ll just have to wait and see for a while.
      Thanks for your answer and all the best for you πŸ™‚

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